We have spent a lot of time talking, praying and crying about baby Maksat since I posted last. We were able to consult with our IA doctors and after processing all the information we came to the decision that we cannot proceed with adopting this precious baby boy. This is not a decision we took lightly. It is so hard to walk away from an adorable baby whose picture we have been admiring for weeks. We believe him to be a special blessing from God and that we were called here to bring attention to his medical needs.
Our agency is working hard to get him the care that he needs, including having him stay at the Tokmok Children's Hospital for a few days to continue his evaluation and get better nutrition. We were able to hold him and say goodbye to him, telling him that we know God has wonderful plans for his life and that we will always love him and pray for him.
We are so appreciative of everyone's thoughtful comments on our blog, sweet e-mails and your prayers. While this has not been easy, the experience has reminded us of our amazing support system and shown us that God is faithful even when times are difficult. He helped to guide our decision and gave us an overwhelming sense of peace about that, and we praise Him for that.
At this point our plan is to stay in Kyrgyzstan until our scheduled departure time. Our agency has been nothing but supportive of our decision and is working hard to explore other options for us.
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16 comments:
Oh Betsy, my heart just is overwhelmed with wanting to be there with you right now and give you the biggest hug I could ever give. I know you are making the right decision because I know you are faithfully seeking the Lord and I know he is guiding you, but I also know this is very hard. We love you love you love you. J
Betsy and Bryan - I can't even imagine how hard this has been for you guys. You have been in my thoughts and prayers and I know that everything will work out in the end. We are all pulling for you in Houston!
Bryan and Betsy,
We support your decision and know that God will lead another baby to you and to us. Hugs, prayers and kisses for both of you.
Love, GranJan
Betsy and Bryan - You will stay in my thoughts and prayers as you go through this trying time. Hugs to you both!
You guys are two of the strongest people and with your unwaivering faith I know you have been guided in the right decision, regardless of how hard it was and how much it hurt to make. Know that your trip was not in vain and that soon you will have a child to shower all of the love and hugs and tears your heart is so full of right now. Lots of love to both of you!
Betsy and Bryan: We have been aching for you the past couple of days. You have made the decision and He will fill your hearts with Peace. Everything has its time this was just not it. "...To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven....." Ecclestastes 3:1
You are two amazing people! I'm heartbroken for you, but confident that your strength has been put to good use in getting the help this little one needs. I admire the strength you've shown in spirit and in your faith. May the heartache be brief and the joy of parenthood be right around the corner. It will happen for you! Peace
Dear Betsy and Bryan, I know that your faith will get you through this difficult time. Dad and I understand your concerns and support your decision 100%. Be patient and the baby you long for will come... in God's time. We love you! Mom and Dad
"Be joyful in hope,patient in affliction,faithful in prayer." Romans 12:12
My heart is breaking for you all. I know there is nothing I can say to take away the pain. But, please know that I am praying for you peace and healing. As well as this special little boy's health and future. Prayer is a powerful thing. HE hears and HE sees.
Hugs & Prayers,
Hilary
I'm so sorry, Betsy and Bryan. This must be such a painful time for you. I'm glad you are at peace with your decision. That's so important. It sounds like it is the right one for you.
I continue to hold you all in my heart-
Suzanne B in CA
betsy, I wish I had the right words to encourage and give you peace, but I know those words don't really exist right now. I know we've never met, but I love you and consider you a friend. Please know I am here for you, whatever you need.
Oh Betsy and Brian.... I don't know what to say -- I try to think what was comforting to me when we had to make the same decision and basically nothing was. Just knowing that people were caring for us seemed to be enough. So, in that spirit, know that I have prayed for you all throughout the days and I will continue to. Even though we've never met, I feel like we are kindred hearts, that our souls are friends, you know? And another thing I just remembered, I really wanted someone to be just honest with me instead of always being comforting. I wanted someone to say what I'm going to say to you, "This REALLY stinks. This hurts and it's not fair. I don't understand WHY this happened and it shouldn't have happened to good people like you." I am here ANYTIME you want to talk--email, phone, whatever. If you want, I'll call you at the hotel. Send me an email -- I'll call anytime, day or night, just let me know. Here's a HUGE hug. With love, Maria
We are so sorry you are going through this. Just know that you are always in our prayers and we are thinking of you guys all of the time. We are here if you need someone to talk to.
I agree with Maria, again!
You are amazing and wonderful people with loving hearts and you did not deserve this pain and difficult decision. And that sweet baby did not deserve the road that is set before him. It is not earned and it is not fair! And TOTALLY stinks!
With that being said, I do know you are all in God's hands. The big picture is way beyond our simple understanding especially when we are in pain.
I wish for you to feel His presence at your side and your heart and minds to have peace.
I hope you can feel the love being sent your way.
Bryan and Betsy-
I have been praying for you everyday here and I know this must be an incredibly hard decision, but I know it is the right one. God has big plans for you and I know the baby of your dreams will come along in God's time. I can only imagine how hard this must be for you, but it is all in God's plans. I love you both so much and will continue to pray for you constantly as you are on this roller coaster of emotions. Love you!
Betsy and Bryan
If there is one thing we have learned in our journey on this Earth, it is this: When God closes one door he opens another.
Just be ready to go through it and do your best on the other side.
We are behind you 100% in your most difficult decision. God had a reason and perhaps your feeling that it was to focus attention on and get proper medical care is the correct one. In any case, that would not have happened if you guys hadn't been there.
Your faith is strong, your instincts excellent and both of you are filled with love.
Remember the piece you had me read at your wedding about love? At the time it was aimed at just the two of you, however you both have grown in spirit and stature and now that love is extended to everyone you meet.
You both have demonstrated that you are strong, brave, intelligent and have excellent values. The World needs a lot more Betsys and Bryans!
May God bless you as you continue your journey through life and know there are many of us keeping you in prayers and good thoughts.
Uncle Jim & Aunt Nancy
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